Did you see the January 25, 2012 article, Meet the Marriage Killer, in the Wall Street Journal? It points to nagging as a major problem in relationships. While men may nag, it is more common for women to be the naggers they say. But this doesn’t necessarily let men off the hook. We must look beyond the nagging to determine why the nagging is occurring. Sometimes it is because a man doesn’t give a clear response either because he doesn’t yet know the answer, or because he doesn’t want to disappoint her. So what do we do about it? Here are some of my ideas. What do you think?
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All people encounter conflict in their personal and professional life. Dr. Frame delivers powerful tips and techniques to deal with it. His book, Don’t Carve the Turkey with a Chainsaw: Resolving Family Conflict has just been released, and he is now developing a similar book for the workplace. He has provided hundreds of presentations sponsored by state and national associations, universities, governmental agencies, businesses, schools, and churches. Dr. Frame was one of the first people the Florida Supreme Court certified as a Family Mediator, and is a past President of the Florida Society of Psychotherapists.
Please review the free report, the position statement on various topics, and read his blog. If it looks interesting let us know how we can help you or your organization.
Conflict Resolution
We all encounter conflict in our life. Couples struggle to help their partner see their “enlightened” viewpoint. At work, we encounter people who cut us off, or push their agenda without considering other viewpoints. Children, especially adolescents, struggle to get their way and establish independence (e.g., but Mom, everyone is doing it). Conflicts involve more than just arguments or people forcibly pushing to get their way. Sometimes they may be more subtle, such as tardiness at school, giving someone the silent treatment, or work slow-downs. What do we do about it? How do we effectively stand up for ourselves while preventing the conflict.
Classroom Behavior Management
Teachers report that classroom management and disruptive students are the two most significant barriers to professional success. Yet many teachers tell me that their college preparation courses neglect this crucial aspect of teaching. Some say that their professors told them that stimulating course content will prevent any classroom discipline problems. While stimulating class content may prevent many classroom behavior problems K-12 teachers frequently have students in their class who formerly would be excluded from school or placed in a self-contained class. In addition, children are frequently distracted by family and community challenges, such as divorce or abuse, which impairs their classroom functioning. What can teachers do without becoming full time counselors?
Bullying
We know that bullying is destructive to the mental health of the victims. What is less well known is that it is also destructive for the bullies. Olweus, (1993), found that bullies, as adults, are five times more likely to become criminals as non-bullies. Eron, Huesmann, Dubow, Romanoff, & Yarnel, (1987) found that bullies had a 25% chance of having a criminal record by age 30. We also know that some bullies are also bullied. Bullying is not just name calling and physical abuse, it can include cyberbullying, and excluding others. Bullying does not disappear when we leave school. Frequently it continues into the workplace and home. So what do we do about it…