We have a tendency to believe that unexpressed feelings will do no harm if they are not expressed, and there may be considerable risk to expressing our feelings about a topic of concern.  We could have our ideas rejected, or ostracized.  Even worse, a person we care about may reject us. Therefore, we hold it in.  There may be times when this is appropriate.  However, important unexpressed feeling rarely lay dormant.  Rather they ferment and turn into something far more potent and intense than the original concern.  Unexpressed feelings may creep into other conversations with that person in unintended ways.  Resentment may creep in through tone of voice, impatience, or tense reactions.  We may lose self-esteem, and chastise ourselves for not standing up for our interests.  Even more important, hidden feeling may block positive emotions.  It is more difficult to love someone when you resent what they do.  I am not suggesting here that we spill our guts and vent all our emotions.  I am suggesting that we carefully express our feelings as they relate to the problem without being judgmental.